What Steps Should You Take To Get Back Your Ex?

Broken up? Broken-hearted?
Want your boyfriend or girlfriend back, but don't know where to start?

Reversing a breakup is actually pretty easy, once you know what to do. But if you don't know the right steps to take? You can quickly push your lover further and further away... and from there, things can get very messy.

How Many of These Ex Back Mistakes Are You Making?

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Fighting the Breakup (Without Result)

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Begging Your Ex To See You, Meet Up, or "Just Talk"

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Telling Your Ex How Much You Still Love Them

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Sending Your Ex a Card, Note, Flowers or a Gift

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Offering to "Be There" or "Stay Friends" With an Ex


Are you making some or all of the above critical mistakes?

Three Stars GOOD. Three Stars

Why good? Because if you're doing all the wrong things to get back with your ex, there's still room for improvement. This means that once you start doing the right things, you'll start getting the favorable results you want.

After all, if you were doing the right things and still failing? It might mean your ex is over you, no longer loves you, or is finished with the relationship for good.

However... doing all the wrong things for too long? That's bad. Because without learning to employ proper reconnection techniques, your once loving boyfriend or girlfriend will begin slipping away.

Which brings us to the most common myths about breakups:

Breakup Myth #1:

The longer your breakup goes on, the harder it will be to get back together with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend.

This myth is so wrong it's scary. And it's also the #1 reason people fail to fix an unwanted breakup: they push too fast, too hard, and way too quickly.

YOU CANNOT FAST-TRACK AN UNWANTED BREAKUP

Sorry, that's just the way things work.

However, you CAN make moves and adjustments to speed up the process of winning your ex back. And the sooner you get started on these instant adjustments? The faster your ex will begin actually missing you.

Breakup Myth #2:

The longer your ex goes without seeing or hearing from you, the easier it will be for them to forget the relationship... and move on without you.

Wrong! In fact, just the opposite is true. Because the more you make yourself available to your suddenly ex boyfriend or girlfriend? The less they'll actually want (or more importantly, need) to hear from you.

Out of sight is NOT out of mind, when it comes to breaking up. 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder' is a lot more accurate. So in the days and weeks immmediately following your breakup? The more you're shoving yourself in your ex's face, the harder it will be to change their mind and get them back.

Complete withdrawal. Cool indifference. These are the behaviors you want to convey when your ex first breaks up with you.

These are the actions that will make your ex miss you, wonder about you, and ultimately, rethink his or her decision to end your relationship.

Breakup Myth #3:

If you can just stay in your ex's life, you can make them realize how much they still love you (a.k.a. the "let's still be friends" approach).

Sorry, but this is complete bullshit. NO ONE wants to be 'friends' after breaking up.

So if your boyfriend or girlfriend gives you the "let's stay friends" speech? What your ex is really doing here is asking for you to sit around and wait for them while they see if they can find someone or something better.

Do this, and you're absolutely dooming your chances of ever getting back together. You're letting your ex walk all over you (and your emotions) while destroying any shred of respect they still might have for you.

Worst of all, you're happily agreeing to place yourself in a strictly platonic role - a role from which you'll most likely never escape.

Don't fall into the 'Friend Zone' trap. Learn exactly what to do when your ex breaks up with you but still wants to remain friends.

Breakup Myth #4:

If your ex is ignoring you or won't respond to any of your calls, it must mean they're over the relationship and don't love you anymore.

Understand something: feelings of love are STRONG. They don't just go away overnight, or because someone decides to 'say so'.

No, emotional ties take time to break. The bonds developed over the course of the relationship are still weighing heavily in your ex's mind.

Now, if your ex has already made the decision to break up with you? These emotions are unwelcome. And this is why your ex will seem cold and distant... pushing you away or avoiding you completely so as not to remind them of the residual feelings your ex still has for you.

Confront them during this very fragile time, and you'll only make your ex angry. Try to push those unresolved feelings back upon them, and your ex boyfriend or girlfriend's flight instinct kicks in: they respond by running away.

So what exactly should you do here? Well, this move for starters.

See, in order to get an ex back you need to play your breakup as cooly and delicately as possible. You need to make small moves in the beginning, before making the bigger moves later on.

Breakup Myth #5:

Without contact, it's impossible to know the signs that your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to get back together with you.

Dangerously FALSE. Because not only are those signals always there, but recognizing the signs your ex might want you back is a critical part of reversing your breakup and getting back together.

Remember, your ex will be guarded when it comes to their feelings. What they outwardly say and do is mostly for the purpose of keeping you away, even if they might be feeling differently inside.

Even when you haven't heard from your boyfriend or girlfriend, and don't have any contact? There are STILL ways to tell how your ex feels about you.

Breakup Myth #6:

No matter what you say or do, the two of you can never feel those 'beginning of your relationship' sparks again.

So totally, totally wrong. Because not only can you bring your relationship back to that magical place, recreating those original feelings is the one irresistable thing that will have your ex dying to be with you again.

The beginning is always the honeymoon of any relationship. It's a time when everything feels right, and nothing feels wrong.

It's also a time where your partner identifies the things they love most about you.

Get them to identify with those same feelings again, and you're giving them every reason to want and need you back.

Remember: No Breakup Situation is Hopeless!

You got them once, and you can get them again. There's always a way back into your ex's arms... getting there is a matter of knowledge, patience, and executing the right approach at the right time.

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To the right you'll find tons of great articles on how to get back an ex boyfriend or girlfriend. Read them, absorb them, and apply these techniques to your own unique break up situation.

And for more specific help? Check out the downloadable guidebooks on how to stop and reverse ANY breakup!

Many of these books have helped thousands of struggling couples get through hard times.

Whether you just broke up or have been apart for a while, these downloadable audio and video guides can speed you down the path to recovering your relationship.

So can you really get your boyfriend or girlfriend back? Of course!

But you'll have to be proactive about fixing your relationship, patient with your approach, and perfect with the timing of exactly when to make your moves!

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